Sweet n sour stir fry!!

Wanna grab a quick snack, or a great starter eligible for all ages?? Believe me kids will love it and there’s no better way to feed veggies to them. Here is a recipe,speedy and cushy, loaded with nutrition and taste. So get going , and don’t wait to try this one!


  1. 2 tbsp crushed garlic
  2. 3-4 chopped chillies
  3. 250 grms cottage cheese( cubed)
  4. 200grms bell peppers( cubed)
  5. 200 grms water chestnuts (peeled and cut into halves)
  6. 6-7 baby corns( sliced slant)
  7. 2tsp soya sauce 
  8. 3 tsp vinegar 
  9. 2-3 tsp sugar
  10. 2 tbsp green chilli sauce
  11. A pinch ajinomoto 
  12. Salt to taste
  13. 2 tbsp oil
  14. 1 1/2 tbsp of cornflour ( paste in half cup of water)


Heat oil in a non stick pan. Add garlic and chillies. Sauté for a min or two. Add baby corn and water chestnuts. Sauté for 3-4 mins . Add the sauces, sugar and salts. Stir well. Now add the bell peppers and cottage cheese cubes . Lastly pour in the cornflour paste , cook for a min , mix well and serve immediately.



I judge others,

For judging others,

It’s something we all do. 

We look down on people ,

For looking down on people,

Even though we do it too.

       These lines caught my eyes, and  I know it’s  not something of a lot of interest to talk about, but JUDGEMENTALISM is a disease untreated in our society till date, has been infecting the very rooted core of humanity since ages.

World threatening issues like Syrians being washed to the shore, downfall in world market and many more recieve the limelight these days. Of course posting a pic on Fb will get many likes, though there are only a few really helping . But what about the bigger issue prevailing in our own homes and around us between friends and families. Where relationships are scaled on the basis of our own perspective without even knowing what would it be like to step in someone else’s shoes.
We judge. When we whine about others doing so to us, why don’t we refrain from judging. Just for the sake of our heart’s complacency , we try to prove others wrong. But the worst thing is, not even realising that we too are doing the same thing of judging ( though it may be for trivial matters.)

  Not smug yet? Still questioning yourself how often you do that? Still trying to recall if something of that sort happens by you too?

Here are some examples of incidents that will throw light on the matter:

  • Neighbour’s son breaks a pot in your lawn- Careless/Mannerless
  • Beggar comes begging- Lazy
  • Maid is late- Ugh, always those lame excuses 
  • Your Cook made a dish salty by mistake-Not vigilant enough, Has lost interest in his duty
  •  Tailor spoiled your fit- Idiotically careless
  • Husband/wife  a bit late from work/tired -doesn’t love me like before
  • A friend ditches for shopping/lunch- doesn’t care/fake

And the list goes on…..

We may not say that aloud, but in our minds , our subconscious interprets all the wrong  judgements promptly on the basis of half truths or incomplete facts, and this habit is rooted deep in our communities. Sometimes we don’t even bother do give a benefit of doubt before making the wrong assumptions. 

So how do we cure ourselves and our kids (for starters)because charity should first begin at our very own homes. What is a greater charity to humanity than curbing this stigma of wrong judgements which ruins our decisions.Edit


  •  Give a thought before u assume

Wrong assumptions trigger negative thoughts and feelings. So relax and think twice.

  • Try reasoning 

The moment you are caught in a situation of judging someone on his/her mistake or an excuse, reason with the person and try understanding their despair.

  • Stay neutral- minded 

This trait will help your reasoning and make you decide better. Is- someone -worthy- of -your -trust- or- no kind of situation .

  • Try to step in their shoes(not literally)

Try imagining yourself in the person’s place you are about to judge. It’s easier that way when you have to take sides( in a two – party situation like fight or disagreement)

  • Let it go !

Someone just made you angry or didn’t fulfill your expectations ( eg:kids and their results .) let go and wait for a better day. No one is perfect including you.

  • Adjust and adapt

Some people will never change and you will have to deal with their crap forever. Never mind, try changing yourself. ( it’s easier said than done)

  • Be calm 

Totally messed up scenarios requires a more subtle solution and a more intelligent person to remain calm. Make yourself that intelligent one!

So build a great life with greater values and  inculcate open mindedness in your kids and family. Spread happiness and exuberance around you, build a better social culture and future. Do this not only for yourself but for your country too. Though your actions maybe small but happiness is contagious . So keep spreading love and stop judging wrongly!

    Coconut water jelly- A palm fruit replica….

    Post heavy- meals – dessert- cravings require a sweet treat which needs to be balanced both calorie and taste wise. Especially when it’s a sea food meal, here’s a recipe which strikes an impeccable desired balance for your taste buds and also chills you right through the core.Easily accessible ingredients and quick to accomplish, you will surely love it’s outcome.


    1. 3 glasses of fresh coconut water with one cup of fine coconut from the shell.
    2. 1 1/2 glasses of water
    3. 10 grms China grass powder
    4. 4 tbsp sugar


    Take the coconut water and mix in the fine coconut pieces.keep aside.Boil the water and sugar. Make a paste out of the china grass powder by adding 3 tbsp of water in it. Add this paste to the boiling water and stir well. Remove from fire after a minute and add to the coconut water. Pour into bowls or glasses u wish to serve in and let it set until firm enough. Serve chilled. Can garnish with berries too.

    So try this amazing recipe as soon as you can and enjoy it cooling effect.

    A miracle of life!

    Expecting a baby at an early age is not only challenging but draining too, both mentally and physically.Ten years ago, bearing my first kid, was nothing more than a feeling of desperately wanting to get over with the infinite hours of over stressed days. Not even knowing how to change a nappy, social circumstances had me married early and here I was happily fulfilling my pregnancy cravings, post six months of my wed-lock.

    Then comes finally a day just before my first delivery, sitting with my mother and sipping an energy drink that our ancestors feed an expecting mother when her due date is near.The drink, made of whole milk with saffron and lots of clarified butter ( which makes me puke)and I am forced to gulp it down. Little did I know that would make me fat rather than helping my baby ‘slip out’. Lol. Yup that’s what every elderly person in my family thinks.

    The very next as I lay on the hospital  bed moaning with unbearable pains of labour, and finally after hours of endurance I delivered a handsome baby boy. Being a mother finally transformed all the painful memories into a beautiful memory painted on the most elaborate page of my life…

    The third day was the discharge and as I was preparing to gather my stuff, highly elated with joyous pleasure, the paediatrician entered for a final check up of my baby who had been sleeping calmly for hours. Being so young and naive, I didn’t realise a baby isn’t supposed to sleep for longer than three hours without feed. 

    ‘May be he is asleep as he didn’t sleep well last night,’I told the doctor,who by now understood something queer due to the lack of reaction from the baby.Except the breathing nothing seemed normal as he hadn’t even passed stools since hours, hadn’t got up for feed and hadn’t even cried since six hours.

    The next moment was the nurses taking my baby away from my arms as he had to be taken to the NICU.Not knowing what was amiss, why wasn’t the baby responding , various blood tests began. Some of the tests had to be done at hospitals of higher caliber which were quite far, so blood had to be transferred into ice bags and were transported there. My eyes were swollen due to my constant weeping and lack of sleep. His blood was unable to break down the protein component of my milk, which resulted in halted-functional-disorder of some kind incomprehensible  even to the doctors. When the results came in, they were even more confused as all the tests were normal. They weren’t able to crack down the reason for this disorder, as we never had a hereditary history too. The paediatrician immediately contacted various doctors from all over the country and abroad in order to get help on the matter. With the grace of the Almighty Allah,they found a solution but were unable to justify its cause.

    My mind lay stunned and haywire amidst the chaotic phone calls and relatives asking questions to which I had no answers. I was just praying and asking forgiveness to my lord. After five days of monotonous torture of fear  gripping my nerves, as my baby held for his tiny life, I saw his feet move just a bit and a ray of hope enlightened my world.That sudden thump of my heart when everyone lay busy  in their chores, is the memory  vividly strong in my mind till date and will forever be. A MIRACLE OF LIFE! 

    My prayers were answered and my baby started recovering gradually during the coming days. Even the doctors were stunned. Slowly the top feed was replaced with my milk and there weren’t any problems reported.( the tests were performed on a daily basis).

    My son started gaining the lost weight, and became mobile and active , showing all signs of a healthy normal baby.But the doctors were still confused and this case was taken to  the higher medical council of the state were meetings were held in order to find the cause. After many assumptions, ( of course Miracles don’t need a cause) they finally stated a MAYBE CAUSE.


    That was the reason stated by the doctors but I define it my way; A MIRACLE OF LIFE PERFORMED BY MY LORD.

    The OS syndrome-how to control  your online shopping addiction.

     When the world’s incredible things are at your disposal and a keypad with wifi at your fingertips, you seem to own the world.

    ‘Online shopping ‘- yup that is the definition for the most inexorable addiction channeling through various gizmos these days, have halted people and their mindsets into a fantasy-laid- state, creating more n more shopaholics each day. When everything is just a button away, pockets are drained dry even before the mid- month, and the rest of the month is spent in waiting for the first day of the next( when we usually get our allowance or salary.) 

     I so call it a “Syndrome” as it has led me too in its on flowing stream of wants,turned me into a shopaholic  and I became unable to decipher my needs from my wants. I still do it, but control it to a great extent.

    There were days when I used to spend hours browsing for the perfect pair of shoes to the perfect pair of ear studs and go bonkers over the in numerous offers and sales. From site to site , I lost track of time. It was a new world to me , with infinite boutiques of stuff, kinda lost in a fairy tale land with a desire to enhance my wardrobe each day.(most of the stuff lays un used till date.) I even kept ordering for my kids , mostly apparels, and the left over time was spent in figuring a way to stack up and manage the money to pay the COD’s. It took over me so badly , I started neglecting important chores and kids. Of course they would be happy when receiving those parcels, but it would not last for long. So for those temporary moments, I was going astray.  

     Realisation hit me, when my elder daughter fell off the stairs, and there I was browsing, not attentive enough to notice until she came with a bruise on her elbow. Luckily she didn’t hurt herself much.From then I decided to put a check on this habit of mine.

    • Do some stress cleaning 

    Cleaning your closet and shoe rack will help you realise the number of things lying unused or many items that are hardly used. It also relieves stress,as  going through old items like photos , cards etc is refreshing.

    • Save money

    Decide on a particular amount as target on a yearly basis( keeping a high target ) which will help you save more than spend.

    • Off the wifi-Go take a walk

    Whenever you feel the need to browse stuff online,just switch off ur wifi and go out for a walk, or indulge in some work out. If you feel lazy , then treat yourself with an ice cream instead. It’s better than being a shopaholic.

    • Pray and meditate

    Praying has been proven to have astounding effects on mind and soul. Meditation has even better outcomes, in contrast with the chaotic world around us.

    • Do some baking

    Sweet treats are simply ravishing after a day’s work, but obviously tastes better when it’s made by you. It’s simply a divine merriment when you bake a cake or accomplish a challenging dessert recipe, taking your mind off things for quite a while.

    • Watch your favourite TV show

    The moment you take your smart phone in hand for browsing, prove you are smarter. Take a chill pill, go online and watch your favourite TV show instead. Mine is the vampire diaries… What’s yours?

    • Delete the shopping apps

    These days we find a lot of ads compelling us to download innumerable  web related apps. Just delete the ones you have downloaded and avoid more.

    • Make a list of your priorities 

    Making a scheduled list has always helped. But here the idea is not making a chore list but making a list of the fundamentals which you prefer doing other than shopping, like reading painting, listening music, dancing , any outdoor sport and try performing a different task each day. It surely helps, as mine is blogging.

    So less of OS AND MORE OF HH…

    Happy hobbies!!!!

      Chermoula Prawns..

          A multi cuisine restaurant where you can have enough assortments to pacify your tastebuds, Cafe Basilico offers great dishes, providing a top class hygiene. 

      One of my favourite dishes from here is chermoula chicken skewers, a green marinade , hailing from South Africa. So restless to try the same taste in prawns, was what I was dying for. Ok , that says I love sea- food. But simultaneously keeping a check on health factor, grilled prawns are a better outcome, ( for taste as well.)

        So paired with assorted stir fried/ steamed vegetables gives a gratifying meal. Hope this one will captivate your hearts and become your weekly flavour, as it’s extremely effortless to concoct. 


      1. 1 kg prawns/chicken
      2. A bunch of coriander leaves
      3. A bunch of mint leaves
      4. 2-3 tbsp olive oil
      5. 5-6 green chillies
      6. 8-10 cloves of garlic 
      7. 1 whole lemon’s juice
      8. 1 tsp black pepper powder
      9. Salt to taste


        Grind ingredients 2-9 into a fine paste for the marinade and marinate the prawns/chicken for 3-4 hours.Grill on an electric braai or stir fry in a pan until cooked properly.serve with stir fried veggies of your choice. Also great with mashed potatoes.

        Easy to prepare, this recipe is great for parties and gatherings. Sure to enthral your kids too.

        Curbing the intense- how to overcome bad habits in kids….

         Parenting requires a full time duty, which goes on inexorably throughout our lives. It’s not just a 24/7 scheduled anaphoric job, but makes us more of an all-rounder professionalist from a doctor to a teacher and lot more. And not any doctor, but a psychiatrist. Truely, we are so jammed up performing little acts of these people on a daily basis, that we forget the most important role to be in with our kids- the one they need the most in a parent–

        A FRIEND 

         Relying  on our instincts (and anger too) is what we do most. But  counselling with our mothers and paediatricians has proven to have immensely positive results in their upbringing .so below are some useful suggestions; if followed; can not only improve our parenting tactics, but also help ourselves to remain calm mentally and cherish the childhood of our kids.

        • Be a friend.

        Studies have shown that friendship between parents and their kids has astounding  results in boosting a child’s confidence and performance. It also helps in curbing bad habits and encourages polished etiquettes.

        • Time to time counselling with a knowledgeable person

        This gives us a better grasp of our current scenario- as parents we tend to face day to day challenges like lack of studying , activities or misbehaviours etc. Discussion proves to relax mind as sharing our anxieties relieves stress.

        • Talk to them

        Most important base of a relationship is easy communication. We talk with our kids and share; so do they. They learn from us. Take interest in everything they tell you, though it may seem irrelevant at earlier stage, forming a habit to talk with you will never allow them to keep anything from you.

        • Imagine yourself in their place/age

        One of the greatest fears of a parent is their children repeating the same mistakes done by then when they were kids. But we need to understand, putting ourselves in their place, come out with a suitable solution to the problem they face. Imagining ourselves in their place will help us comprehend them better.

        • Respect their wants

        We often say no when kids ask for something, because we know their needs from wants. But it’s better to acknowledge the fact that those wants become their need due to the competition they face in school with their friends. Someone from their group might have more luxuries like a play station, iPhones, iPad etc. At such situations, dont promptly deny them. Instead  try to deal with them, asking for something in return,like better behaviour or better scores. This way both sides win!!

        • Pray play and eat together

        A family that eats together,prays together and plays together is a happy and content family. Unity in family is mandatory for a docile upbringing of children. 


        • Try giving minor responsibilities

        The first step towards this is encouraging children to perform tiny tasks, (of course you have to tolerate a little jibber jabber,but it will stop eventually,believe me).  Another useful method is allotting little amounts of fixed allowance weekly or monthly, which will help developing a habit to save money, helping them to understand the meaning of being responsible better. It will also enhance their calculating skills and will learn to be careful by handling money.

        Hope this post helps you in a better upbringing of your little ones and keeping a check on their mannerisms.

        Two ingredient mousse!!!

          My life changed drastically after the birth of my third child, and as you all know it’s no easy job being a referee. Yup, thats what my friends call me now, as I have become super busy to meet them. But parenting has its own unique challenges and obstacles, like making instant meals as per your kids wishes. Though the greater challenge lies in making with whatever stuff handy and minimal ingredients. 

        Also It requires a lot of mental synthesis to decide different recipes everyday; which in turn demands various products to be available at your disposal. Desserts too are a  boon in bribing  kids to finish their meals and chores on time.

           So here is a recipe of chocolate mousse, so yumm, with only two ingredients and a minute of you precious time. 


        1. 200 grms Nutella
        2. 200 ml fresh cream
        3. 1tbsp sugar(opt)


        Combine Nutella n cream n beat on high for a minute or two. Fill into mousse cups n refrigerate until set. Garnish with walnuts or toppings of your choice n serve.

          This delectable yet easy dessert is my favourite, as it is a time-saver. It is also a great dessert for small parties, and believe me, all from kids to adults simply enjoy this luscious dessert. Go , give it a try!!!

        Malaysian prawns….

            So here’s another one of the fusion recipes that I successfully accomplished, after a few trials of – course. Believe me, nothing better than a sea food menu on a weekend with your family of prawn-lovers. No more I -don’t -wanna – eat tantrums when you have an elvishly planned meal for your little ones.

          Voilà!! Here is the recipe of all times, hailing from the legendary Malaysian cuisine with a kick of our very own exemplary Indian spices. So savour each bite, pairing with either rice or fries and a light salad.


        1. 1kg prawns
        2. 1/2cup heavy cream
        3. 1 cup coconut milk
        4. 1/4 cup cheese spread
        5. 2tbsp ginger piced
        6. 5-6 cloves of garlic
        7. 5-6 whole red chillies
        8. 1/2 onion
        9. 1/2 lemon juice
        10. 1tsp cumin powder
        11. 1tsp red chilli powder 
        12. 1 tsp garam masala(5spice)powder
        13. Salt n pepper 
        14. Oil 
        15. Chopped parsley/coriander


        Grind a fine paste of onion, garlic,ginger and red chillies. Heat oil in a wok and add the prawns. Cook till almost done. Add the ground paste and the rest of the ingredients one by one, starting with spices and ending with cheese. Continue to sauté on high till thick and well reduced. Garnish with coriander/parsley and serve with rice or fries.( can add veggies like bell peppers and baby corn too).

            Trying this incredible dish , you will surely mark it in your favourite top ten.  

        Lasagne Fusion…..

                    Recently had an amazing entreé so blissful; it’s surely gonna leave you lusting for more. I had had once for dinner in a party , but since couldn’t savour it enough, I tried it the very next day . But I found something missing, so I added my homemade shezwan sauce to it….

             Yup!!! That’s what gave the dish an exotic kick- a twist which I always crave while trying to replicate a dish I eat at a party or restaurant. This one is simply going to pamper your tastebuds and enthral your senses. Comfort food is the category in which this dish must rightly fall into. Hailing from Italian cuisine where cheese , being the most requisite ingredient, with a fusion of Chinese shezwan sauce, it’s a must try.

        lasagne fusion


        1. 2-3tbsp all purpose flour
        2. 3 tbsp butter or oil
        3. 200 grms fresh cream
        4. 200 ml milk
        5. 250 grms boneless chicken( cut in cubes)
        6. 200 grms bell peppers( cut in cubed)
        7. 150 grms brocolli ( in pieces)
        8. 4-5 baby corns (sliced)
        9. 1 tbsp oregano 
        10. 1tsp paprika
        11. 1 tsp pepper pd n salt
        12. Chicken stock(frm above)
        13. 4-5Lasagne sheets(cooked n drained)
        14. 2-3 green chillies (chopped)
        15. 1 bowl shezwan sauce( preferably homemade)
        16. 300 grms grated cheese


           Boil chicken cubes in ginger garlic paste . Drain and reserve the stock. In a wok , heat butter add flour and sauté until fragrant. Immediately add oregano paprika and chillies. Stir in milk and fresh cream and sauté for another minute. Add salt, pepper powder and veggies. Simmer for 3-4 mins until half done. Add chicken and stock. Pour in some water if required. Add half of the cheese,mix well and remove from heat. In an oven proof dish, spread2-3 lasagne sheets, pour half of the shezwan sauce and then pour all the white sauce mixture . Cover with the remaining sheets, spread the leftover shezwan sauce and the remaining cheese. Garnish with fresh parsley or basil(opt) . Bake in the oven for about 20 mins at 160  degrees F*. Enjoy when done.

                   Do try this fusion recipe and keep looking into my blog for more fusions… Next one on my list Is Malaysian prawns which I had in South Africa at Kashifs…. A restaurant owned by a man wth the same name; also a master of fusion cuisine. So hang on for more…..